faith in God. Dating as a Christian is difficult, but staying true to your convictions is even harder. Instead of putting so much importance on his favorite food or what size shoe he wears (not that shoe size isn’t important…wink, wink) here are just some of the core values you should be talking about on your dates with potential Morris’:* Relationship with Jesus
* Attitudes about money
* Attitudes about sex
* Kids or no kids?
* Privacy vs. Secrecy
* In-law relationships
* Views on marriage
Now, let’s not forget the practical things like smart things and silly things. For example:
You should ask yourself if you could deal with the differences in the smart things that you agree to disagree on. While politics and taxes might be your passion, metric wrenches and computer software
might really get him going. It’s okay if you don’t share all smart things, but you should be able to participate on some level.
Now silly things to you may be the show, Dancing with the Stars and to him Monday Night Football. Sometimes silly things are connected to hobbies and extracurricular activities. Even if you have different interests, your relationship can still work. But you should take some time to evaluate whether staying connected to your core values as a couple is more important than indulging in the smart or silly things all of the time. In other words, are you willing to spend time doing the things your husband enjoys and vice versa?
Equipping yourself with answers to these questions and comparing them to your Christian values makes it easy to spot “Mr. Booty Call, Mr. Pay my Rent, and the notorious Mr. Down Low.” Don’t waste your time on these men. Simply dismiss these brothers.
A lot of women think that having more candidates is good. In fact, as most brothas will tell you with mad options, more candidates often contribute to your confusion on which one to choose. Following the tips in this series will help you quickly narrow your choices for God’s best. The great guys will have the desire to get to know you for who you are, serve your needs, honor God, and yes spend their money on you. As Matthew 6:21 says, “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." When a man is willing to spend a great deal of time and money on you, take notice. He may just be your Morris.
If you have already met your Morris, pray for clarity on those red section brothers. The Holy Ghost will show you which brotha is for you. Whatever you do, don’t go looking for him under every rock or in the frozen food section of the supermarket. You don’t have to Find Morris. Trust God, look your best at all times and before you know it, Morris will Find you.
-James and Kanika
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2 comments:
I first want to give you guys props at attempting to spark a conversation regarding how believing singles should meet their mates. I believe that I asked this question before and never did receive an answer. (I received a generic -- Thanks for your feedback.) Why are we trying to Find Morris or Find Halle? I mean as for a name it is eye catching but as a female I am not first looking ... because the Word says He who finds... therefore I am to gather I am to wait and I am not waiting for Morris.... that is unattainable and unrealistic. Once you look at all the spiritual things, the smart things, and the silly things the main thing is to PRAY. All of the other things can be on point and still not be the one. Just some word for thought. I have not heard ALL of your shows but I did at least want to get that answered. Agape!
Hey! I remember you from the show. Sorry if we didn't speak to your question as of yet, we will. (Her question on the show was why do men in the church prefer worldly women?) I read your comment and I agree that prayer for a woman choosing which man to date is crucial. Very cruical. Here is what we have found: #1 The show primarily speaks to a people already in a church home. They have a Pastor already. #2 Formality is often used in Christian circles to hide,and in some cases discourage the truth.
So prayer is awesome, and yes essential for the Christian life. Our role in that life is not clergy-like, it's more brother-like.
Here is a recently stated disclaimer I used when speaking at a local church "Whatever the man of this house says is right, and what I say outside of that is wrong" ... then I proceeded to speak what the Lord put on my heart to say.
That is exactly what I am saying here in this post. I don't (we don't) often speak to doctrine issues. When to pray, prayer in unknown tongues, intercession prayer. I love serving the saints, just not as Pastor.
Thanks,
James
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