The questions is worthy of what? Most women have pre-marital sex with men for many reasons:
To be loved
To be married
Because their horny
To get us to stay
Because if they don't, some other woman will
Because they are in love with us
and my favorite, because they think they are in a relationship with the guy
"But most men have pre-marital sex for one reason. Because their horny"
With men on one side, and women on the other side, each with different motives in all cases but one; what is a sistah to do? See the worthiness that Steve Harvey is talking about is NOT the same worthiness that God speaks of. God built us and knew us before we were knitted in the womb. He understands our nature better than anyone. God knows that if most men got the ...ahem..."benefits" before marriage, that he would have little interest in pursuing a covenant marriage with THAT women. Men that get benefits before marriage, are well fed, and don't get grief about it often become "parked cars" along the road to marriage.
Okay I know your girl Lisa "gave up the draws" and her boyfriend married her. Did Lisa tell you about the ultimatum she gave him that made him pop the question? Did she tell you that he married her because she got pregnant? Lisa may not have shared the facts that she was giving him money, paid his bills or that she organized his office. She certainly didn't share that she was secretly a "ride - or - die chick" for him that stayed around long enough to out last the other chicks that he was sleeping with.
I'm not saying that Lisa's boyfriend didn't love her, i'm saying that if the goal is to be married, then giving him a 90 day evaluation before having sex with him IS NOT going to help you determine if he is worthy of you or not. 90 days is just the latest common wisdom designed to distract you. I know that everyone is doing it that way, but God told us that His way would be the narrow, less traveled, sure pathway that leads us to righteousness. If the man you date says that he loves you, he can demonstrate that best by first honoring God by leading you into marriage before the bedroom.
James is a contributing writer and host of FindingMorris.com
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On the question of how long to wait before having sex, I did not see the option I utilized, which was to wait until we were engaged and committed to getting married. This was a departure from the goal that I originally set when we first started dating of waiting until marriage. We knew fairly quickly that we were destined to be together after the first few months and began planning to get married. But hear the rest of the story before following my path. We got pregnant a year later, and we were still not married yet because of his financial situation. Because of the pregnancy we had a small civil ceremony shortly after we found out about the pregnancy and now have a beautiful 5 year old daughter. Sadly, we are also getting divorced.
Sorry to hear about your divorce. Hindsight being 20/20, what would you do differently during your dating process?
-James
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